Your Role in Their Life Story

Have you ever stopped to think about the impact that you have in other people’s life? What you represent in their Journey? Sometimes I let my mind wander and think about the different characters I play (or played) in everybody’s life story.

People will set their own opinion of you based on a specific interaction at a given time. Those interactions were influenced by certain circumstances at that given time and may have differed had they happened sooner… or later.

I’m a horrible person in some people’s narratives and a Godsend in others. Yet most times, none of it has anything to do with the person I truly am deep down.

The lens that others view you through is coloured by their upbringing, beliefs, and individual experiences. The role that you played in a particular phase in their life.

Some people see your bright personality as endearing and others see it as annoying.

Some people see you as a jokester, loving life and others feel like you are immature and cannot be serious.

Some people think you’re weak and emotional and others feel safe to be themselves around you.

Some people think you’re rude and selfish and others respect the way you stand up for yourself by setting boundaries.

Some people see you as heartless and not caring and others realize that you have reached a point in your life where you prioritize where to dedicate your energy.

Some people admire the way you take pride in the way you look and others think you’re conceited.

And none of it has to do with who you truly are as a person. Yet, if you asked those people, they would swear that it’s the truth, that they know about you. It is THEIR reality… or their perception of it. THEIR truth.

Someone who has been around you for a while might have seen you in more situations, or might have learned to know you better. But even them only know the surface and what you want them to see. Your behaviour one day could have been influenced by the news of a family member fighting for his/her life, the loss of a job, or a fight with your significant other.

Only you know who you are deep inside, and what you have gone through in your own life. Your deep feelings, what molded you into who you are today.

What you have to understand is that you have no authority over how people view you so never try to control the way others see you because the only thing that truly matters when the dust settles down at the end of the day is what you genuinely see in yourself.

In the end, you cannot prevent people from cataloguing you one way or another. You don’t control how good or how mean people around you are. What you do control is your reaction and how you choose to react to those tags placed on you.

The best thing to do is to ignore the negativity and surround yourself with good people. You accomplish that by setting boundaries and working on your focus. Life is good… when you are amongst loving and caring people.