15 Lessons on ‘Savoir Vivre’

At times, it seems like much like common sense, good manners or “savoir vivre”, as we say in French, is a bit of a lost art. Where did it all fall through the cracks? There are many theories out there but the more limited live interaction in person might be a contributor. So this is a simple attempt at remembering some good manners, or things to apply, that show some savoir vivre. Hope you enjoy.

1. Don’t lend money to your family. Give it. Of course, that is if you can afford to do so, and it shouldn’t become a habit. But family is family. If we’re not there for each other, who will be?

2. Never shake a hand while sitting down. The proper way is to stand up, look the person in the eye and have a firm grip.

3. Stop telling people more than they need to know. People aren’t entitled to every details and by offering unnecessary information, you risk confusing people and your message will get lost.

4. Never eat the last piece of something you didn’t buy. Seems like common sense, doesn’t it? If you that, you will be considered as rude and selfish.

5. Don’t throw your friend under the bus to impress someone. True friends are hard to find and if you betray them, it will speak of your character, not your friends.

6. Never insult the cooking when you are the guest. This boils down to respect, a bit of a lost art in this society at times. How would you like if someone did that to you when you cooked?

7. Don’t use the urinal next to an occupied one. Give the guy next to you some privacy, why don’t you?

8. Don’t take out your phone during a conversation. That is plain rude. It’s like telling them that they’re not interesting. Remember… human interaction!

9. Never take credit for work you didn’t do. Or if you worked on something with someone else, share that credit. If the truth comes out and you took all credit, you will be the one looking awful.

10. Listen, nod, and most of all make eye contact. Key word is “listen”… truly listen. Show some interest, have a presence and… don’t interrupt.

11. Don’t make fun of your friend in front of his kids. Just like don’t put your spouse down in front of the kids. Children are very influenceable and parents are their ultimate disciplinarians and figure of authority.

12. Never let emotions overpower you. Take a few deep breaths, get some fresh air, think before barking out words or doing something that you might very well end up regretting.

13. Never beg for a relationship. Have some pride and self-respect. If someone doesn’t want to be with you, accept it and move on. You’re worth more than that!

14. Dress well no matter what the occasion. First impression is important, but so is the image you portray. That doesn’t mean suit and tie, or formal dress. Show a little pride in how you present yourself, how you dress.

15. Never kick a man when he is already down. Life is already difficult enough as it is without having someone push you down when you’re already not well. The effect could be devastating.

There are many more, but if we all start with some of the ones listed above, it will make the world a better place. Those are things that we control in life. Why not apply them?