Beauty In Simplicity

For decades now, we’ve been living in a society where beauty, not only in women, but in men as well, is being portrayed in a certain way. Yet, if you look at old Pin-Ups, women had a few curves. They were considered beautiful, and rightfully so. Then, for some odd reasons, beauty started getting defined by body fat measurements that are out of touch with the majority of the populations. Women in advertisings, in magazines, have little to no fat. Men have a six-pack and a head full of hair. Many of those pictures have even been modified to accentuate an unrealistic portrait of what beauty should be, according to advertisers.

This issue with this is the collateral damage it is creating in our society, by placing unrealistic expectations on everyone. So many women compare themselves to those models and see them as a standard of beauty. While not as bad, some men do it to. In all cases, it leads to people being dissatisfied with their body, and ultimately with themselves. It often leads to low self-esteem, a lack of confidence. I’m sorry to say, but that’s not right.

True story: for this blog post, I “Googled” the word “beauty”. Most, if not all of the images that came up were young, skinny women, make-up products and magazine covers. I kid you not! So I figured that I would search for “Natural beauty” and unfortunately, the results were very similar. That’s how commercialized our society is… Sad, isn’t it? I did not dare type “sexy”!

What is beauty?

You know the old saying… Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder! No, wait… that’s not it. The BEHOLDER! That’s it. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder! That’s right. It means that the perception of beauty is subjective, as people can have differing opinions on what is beautiful. So what one person perceives as flawless and captivating might be ordinary or unappealing to another.

But beyond that, there are plenty of qualities that make someone beautiful (or handsome), that a picture simply cannot always portray. Here are a few things that I personally find very attractive in a woman, no matter her shape, age, or social status:

1- Smile:

That is likely the first thing that I notice in a woman. A smile illuminate a face, provides a sense of confidence, of “joie de vivre”, of happiness. It is inviting and portrays openness.

2- Eyes:

You can tell so much by looking at someone’s eyes. You can see pain, happiness, sorrow… If someone looks you in the eyes instead of looking down or away, it shows confidence, sincerity. Eyes can be extremely attractive.

3- Natural beauty:

Wearing a bit of make-up is okay. But when you don’t look like the same person when you wake up in the morning as you did on a night out, there’s something wrong. When you don’t dare going out without a full face of make-up, it’s a huge issue. Someone who is beautiful naturally is so much more attractive, in my humble opinion.

4- Self-confidence:

Often, people underestimate how attractive someone displaying self-confidence can be. We’re not talking arrogance here. But a confident person walks into a room and it is noticeable. Head held up high, chest forward, decisive walk, all show that this lady has standards for herself. How your height, your inner-beauty, and show that you know your worth.

5- Tasteful sexiness:

What? That’s right. You don’t need to show the goods for everyone to see. This is particularly true in women. Some think that the more they show, the sexier they are. The issue is that those women confuse men’s attention with attraction. Showing the good will draw a lot of attention for sure! But more often than not, it will be for the wrong reason: sex. An attractive woman will display just enough to let the imagination of a man run wild, while remaining tasteful. Leave the full sexiness in the bedroom, for your lover.

Conclusion

Ladies (and men), stop comparing yourself with those models, with what society is imposing on you. Instead, just be yourself. Be a good person. Smile. Make eye contact. Remain somewhat natural. Don’t overdo it with make-up and don’t confuse attention with attraction. Be confident in yourself, in who you are as a person. Be proud. Be… your sexy self! That’s what good men and women are looking for.